As a family building choice, adoption changes everything, now and forever. Sometimes the change is obvious because the children wear adoption on their faces. These "visible families" often find themselves on the receiving end of intrusive---even outrageous---questions from perfect strangers; at least the topic is on the table from the start and they develop some coping strategies for rudeness.
Not always so when parents build their families to achieve "invisibility." These families "pass" at first blush, and it can be tempting for parents to simply sidestep the issue of adoption. A version of don't ask, don't tell. While there are still adults who learn of their adoption only when their parents are deceased and they are going through old papers, it's difficult for me to believe that there are youngsters with no preparation for understanding how they came to be part of their families.
Pearle Vision has created a beautiful video ad for Mother's Day (click here). In it, a PV exec and adoptive mother says, “I have seen tears in the eyes of an abandoned child in China. And even though I knew I was taking her to a better place, all she knew was that she was being taken away. I have seen my daughters, born on opposite sides of the earth, become true sisters. But most of all, I have seen that being a mother is not in the blood but of the heart."
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Don’t count the days---make the days count.
Cindy
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